What Is Anger’s Real Name?

Gina Butz emotions, grief, perspective 8 Comments

Sometimes on New Year’s Eve, when I’m feeling ambitious and intentional about our family relationships, we review the year together. One question we ask our kids is, “what’s one thing you learned this year?” Our last year overseas, our then 10-year-old said, “I’ve learned that anger is a secondary emotion,” and I high fived myself. Partly because it felt like …

We Grieve and Then We Hope

Gina Butz grief, hope, transition 0 Comments

“I don’t know if I’ll ever find what I have right now again. There’s just so much that’s unknown.” That was our son’s deep cry as we talked one night. He’s slogging through the final weeks of his senior year of high school, staring down freshman year at one of the country’s largest universities. It’s a big transition. His days …

What to Do When It’s Hard

Gina Butz dependence on God, faith, grief, trials 18 Comments

The last couple weeks I have witnessed all manner of hardship around me. The sudden death of a son. Adopted children wrestling with trauma and fear. Inconclusive test results. Two attempted suicides. A mysterious illness in a child. Moments like this rattle us to our core. They remind us that the world is fallen, and we are frail. They speak to …

Hope in a Broken World

Gina Butz faith, grief, hope 1 Comment

A friend’s father loses his battle with cancer. News of an impending divorce. The unexpected death of a young man. Abusive words spoken and then rationalized as biblical. One after another, over the span of a week. Broken. We live in a broken world. I desperately don’t want it to be. I want to have a world where fathers don’t die …

Sinking In

Gina Butz grief, transition 0 Comments

It wasn’t until three months into our life overseas that I realized I lived there. Up until then, we had lived in one room in a foreign student dormitory, our two twin beds shoved together, the five suitcases we brought stacked up to the ceiling. We washed dishes in the bathtub. We turned away the maids who came to “clean” …

Waves

Gina Butz grief, transition 0 Comments

We’re not accustomed to this new normal, when leaving this house doesn’t mean enduring 24 hours of traveling hurtling through the air in a pressurized metal tube and landing on the other side of the ocean. Now it means enduring 24 hours in a car and ending up at “home.” On the packing and shopping side, this is a relief, …