What Is Anger’s Real Name?

Gina Butz emotions, grief, perspective 8 Comments

Sometimes on New Year’s Eve, when I’m feeling ambitious and intentional about our family relationships, we review the year together. One question we ask our kids is, “what’s one thing you learned this year?” Our last year overseas, our then 10-year-old said, “I’ve learned that anger is a secondary emotion,” and I high fived myself. Partly because it felt like …

Hope in a Broken World

Gina Butz faith, grief, hope 1 Comment

A friend’s father loses his battle with cancer. News of an impending divorce. The unexpected death of a young man. Abusive words spoken and then rationalized as biblical. One after another, over the span of a week. Broken. We live in a broken world. I desperately don’t want it to be. I want to have a world where fathers don’t die …

Do It Scared

Gina Butz anxiety, courage 1 Comment

So I have this ambition to write a book about transition. I’m good at ambition – I’m ambitious about a lot of things. But most of those things are within my grasp, private, typical. Or if they aren’t, no one knows about them anyway, so they don’t know that I failed. In this, success or failure is not something I …

A Story of Two Houses

Gina Butz faith, identity 4 Comments

This is a story of two houses. Years ago, I was introduced to the idea that from the beginning of life, we build a house for ourselves. This house is constructed of the strategies we use to make life work apart from God. It’s how we find our place, protect ourselves from pain, feel loved and needed. Our houses all …

Waves

Gina Butz grief, transition 0 Comments

We’re not accustomed to this new normal, when leaving this house doesn’t mean enduring 24 hours of traveling hurtling through the air in a pressurized metal tube and landing on the other side of the ocean. Now it means enduring 24 hours in a car and ending up at “home.” On the packing and shopping side, this is a relief, …

Desire

Gina Butz Uncategorized 0 Comments

What do you do with desire? I’m not talking about “I desire bacon” or, “I desire a tropical vacation.” I’m talking about deep heart desires, like the desire to be loved, respected, needed, safe, important, powerful, competent, noticed. If I don’t get bacon on any given day, I’m not going to be hurt. I’m not even going to be hurt …