How “At Least . . .” Keeps Us From Reality

Gina Butz emotions, relationships, Uncategorized 0 Comments

Recently, I lamented a reality in my life. I would tell you what this reality was, but I honestly don’t remember. All I know is that my husband didn’t respond the way I hoped. His response was, “Well, at least (this other thing) isn’t happening to you.” (Again, what was the other thing? I don’t know. But it didn’t help …

What Is Anger’s Real Name?

Gina Butz emotions, grief, perspective 12 Comments

Sometimes on New Year’s Eve, when I’m feeling ambitious and intentional about our family relationships, we review the year together. One question we ask our kids is, “what’s one thing you learned this year?” Our last year overseas, our then 10-year-old said, “I’ve learned that anger is a secondary emotion,” and I high fived myself. Partly because it felt like …